“Dating 101: Three Tips For Active Daters”

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By: Qosmic Qadence

Greetings Prospective Daters!

The following are 3 entirely helpful tips that everyone who’s presently dating or who intends to date, should both know and apply.

•Tip #1: Take The Time To Get To Know Yourself.

Clearly there’s a tremendous benefit in knowing who you are, when approaching any situation. With prior knowledge, this gives you a concrete basis of understanding what’s suitable, tolerable &/or worth your time and energy. Ask yourself a few questions like: “What kind of person am I? What makes me happy? How important is that happiness? Adding another person to my mix benefits that happiness in what way? What would I like to contribute to another persons life? Fun? Education? Growth as a person? Companionship? Friendship? Sex? Marriage? What’s my chief aim for dating at this time?

•Tip #2: Define Those Things That You Desire To Accomplish As A Result Of Dating.

There could be nothing worse than dating without an aim, even if it’s just for fun; companionship; conversation; social interaction; casual sex etc. Having this clearly defined helps ease stress &/or confusion brought about through miscommunication/misunderstanding of the process. You’ll find yourself far more equipped to readily identify situations that aren’t conducive to your directional purpose as outlined. Otherwise you waste time that can never be recouped and incur frustrations that can be easily avoided.

•Tip #3: Define What Dating Is & Isn’t!

How many expect to find success on the dating front without guidelines or structure is laughable. It’s like taking a road trip without clear directions, likewise without map or GPS assistance. Can you say, “Extended Trip”? Ha! Establish the ‘Rules’ here & trust me, it’s okay to do so. What constitutes a date? What’s appropriate date attire? What are appropriate dating venues versus those inappropriate? What’s appropriate dating behavior & conversation? What’s completely off limits? You’re encouraged to dig a bit deeper and ask additional questions more closely suited to your personality & lifestyle makeup. Establishing ‘Rules’ in this regard should make it a lot easier to communicate and plan a date that has an actual chance of succeeding.

These are great places to start! Keep in mind that we all develop and are stretched a tad based on those we date – positively or negatively. Be clear about your desires & allow those to become your road map.

Best Wishes!
Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up”, he is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement further.

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“A Good Man’s Claim”

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By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)
@qosmic_qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

It’s a sad but true fact. Most men have started out in early/younger relationships loving at half mass (even in the best possible loving situation), because we kept our “heart” & “options” open ‘Just In Case’ (something bad happened like a break up, or someone else better came along).

The silliest thing about this perspective is that our practice caused us more harm than good and NOW we recognize that. So, typically as a man matures he’ll open himself to the greatest possibility of love and seek to freely share that with a Great woman.

Unfortunately, many of those Great women have since stopped believing in men – or worse, have stopped believing in their own ability to acquire true love. They’ve unfortunately given so often, and received little to nothing or heartache in return. Ladies, be patient with us and try to understand. We’re Trying To Do Better … NOW! At least, “The Good Men Are”.

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.