“Hey You! Yeah … You!”

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By: Qosmic Qadence

I’ve managed to evade the “Holy Shit! I’m getting old!” plague which can be a terror.

The closer I get to forty I’m thinking, “Wow! I’m about to enter the realm of the mature. I mean, if you guys are young? Meh … been there done that shit. Good Luck! Ha!

No seriously, live & learn. It’s fun to grow up. But know that there’s no standard of preparedness that everyone should aspire to rise to – you must create it.

Preparations should hinge on the tangible and intangible, not just high expectations and even higher hopes.

Word of advice, “Put away as much money as you can now. It’s the best time to do so, even though you think you don’t have much.

That way, as you grow and mature – so does the accumulation of tangible wealth, to be converted into assets later.” It’s not JUST about money, it’s what you could DO with the money to be a blessing to others.

So again, do your future self the favor of setting them up to be sensational. There could be no greater act of self-love.

Best Wishes!

*Author of, “The Book of Qos – Inspirational Words of Life”, he is avidly outspoken about the simplicity of life and how a more practical approach can yield benefits immeasurable. Visit his website to explore his work & this movement further.

“Mr. & Mrs. All Wrong For One Another”

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By: Qosmic Qadence

I’m thoroughly convinced that most women spend a good portion of their young lives sifting through all of the Mr. Wrong’s that come along. While sifting some even get trapped or trap themselves with children, joint property ownership, marriage etc. Given the joint responsibilities to assets or human lives, it becomes a nightmarish uphill battle reestablishing independence, or in the least freedom from that situation.

Complicating matters here is that most men take a little longer to mature mentally and emotionally. It’s an irrefutable truth that by nature men Hunt & women Nest. While being labeled Mr. Wrong, they’re actually more accurately Mr. NotRightNow (a.k.a. Mr. WannaHaveFun; b.k.a. Mr. OnTheProwl).

By the time they’ve exhausted their immature phase of fun and games, and are ready to settle down, MOST women have grown tired of what they rightfully perceive to be “The Game”.

At this point one of two things happens:

• #1 – Women themselves begin playing “The Game”, and end up screwing over a good man. All the while paying back men for all of the heart & headaches endured through previous encounters. That is, whether they’re the direct cause or not.

– OR –

• #2 – Women become game conscious and men who’ve thought themselves to be done with “The Game”, instead find themselves & their every move under heavy scrutiny. Mind you, they could be noble in their intentions and honestly not messing around on the side; nor possess a desire to. But, both the positive and negative spin on this situation, are more often than not based on previous experience with that particular type of man or others.

Ladies & Gents, be very careful. The worst thing you can do is allow the ugliness of experience to darken your heart & taint your mentality. It’s also terrible to have a mate feel like, “What the hell! If I’m going to be accused of messing around, I might as well make it count.” It’s not always what you say to a person, but sometimes your accusatory reactions can be equally as off putting or damaging.

Surely there are real life instances where both of the gender ascribed traits within this writing, are applicable to both sexes and can be reversed. So, in the general sense my advice is this, “Be clear with those with whom you encounter about your aim, mission, or desires.”

I’ll forever contend that 9 times out of 10, a woman wants the same thing(s) that a man does – and vice versa. If we’d ALL grow up and be more honest with one another about what we truly desire, a world of opportunity would present itself for the taking.

Side with honesty or keep playing “The Game” with ‘Mr. & Mrs. Wrong’.
The choice is yours.

Best Wishes
Qosmic Qadence

http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up”, he is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. He has also published 2 books of poetry “Love vs. The World” & “Love Letters”, as well as a book of inspirational content entitled, “The Book of Qos – Inspirational Words of Life”. Visit his website listed above to explore his work & this movement further.

“Dating 101: Three Tips For Active Daters”

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By: Qosmic Qadence

Greetings Prospective Daters!

The following are 3 entirely helpful tips that everyone who’s presently dating or who intends to date, should both know and apply.

•Tip #1: Take The Time To Get To Know Yourself.

Clearly there’s a tremendous benefit in knowing who you are, when approaching any situation. With prior knowledge, this gives you a concrete basis of understanding what’s suitable, tolerable &/or worth your time and energy. Ask yourself a few questions like: “What kind of person am I? What makes me happy? How important is that happiness? Adding another person to my mix benefits that happiness in what way? What would I like to contribute to another persons life? Fun? Education? Growth as a person? Companionship? Friendship? Sex? Marriage? What’s my chief aim for dating at this time?

•Tip #2: Define Those Things That You Desire To Accomplish As A Result Of Dating.

There could be nothing worse than dating without an aim, even if it’s just for fun; companionship; conversation; social interaction; casual sex etc. Having this clearly defined helps ease stress &/or confusion brought about through miscommunication/misunderstanding of the process. You’ll find yourself far more equipped to readily identify situations that aren’t conducive to your directional purpose as outlined. Otherwise you waste time that can never be recouped and incur frustrations that can be easily avoided.

•Tip #3: Define What Dating Is & Isn’t!

How many expect to find success on the dating front without guidelines or structure is laughable. It’s like taking a road trip without clear directions, likewise without map or GPS assistance. Can you say, “Extended Trip”? Ha! Establish the ‘Rules’ here & trust me, it’s okay to do so. What constitutes a date? What’s appropriate date attire? What are appropriate dating venues versus those inappropriate? What’s appropriate dating behavior & conversation? What’s completely off limits? You’re encouraged to dig a bit deeper and ask additional questions more closely suited to your personality & lifestyle makeup. Establishing ‘Rules’ in this regard should make it a lot easier to communicate and plan a date that has an actual chance of succeeding.

These are great places to start! Keep in mind that we all develop and are stretched a tad based on those we date – positively or negatively. Be clear about your desires & allow those to become your road map.

Best Wishes!
Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up”, he is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement further.

“A Good Man’s Claim”

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By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)
@qosmic_qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

It’s a sad but true fact. Most men have started out in early/younger relationships loving at half mass (even in the best possible loving situation), because we kept our “heart” & “options” open ‘Just In Case’ (something bad happened like a break up, or someone else better came along).

The silliest thing about this perspective is that our practice caused us more harm than good and NOW we recognize that. So, typically as a man matures he’ll open himself to the greatest possibility of love and seek to freely share that with a Great woman.

Unfortunately, many of those Great women have since stopped believing in men – or worse, have stopped believing in their own ability to acquire true love. They’ve unfortunately given so often, and received little to nothing or heartache in return. Ladies, be patient with us and try to understand. We’re Trying To Do Better … NOW! At least, “The Good Men Are”.

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“Self-Respect Goes A Long Way!”

By: Qosmic Qadence

If it takes you 5 seconds to determine whether you’d have Sex with me, then “I’ll Pass”. Otherwise, I’d perhaps pass away, from whatever you’re so quick to pass out. No thanks!

*Soap Box Moment*
A tad annoyed by this perception that it’s cool to Act on Impulses of Lust solely, while expecting a “Forevership” to dynamically develop.

Yes I’m Well Aware That ‘Forevership’ Isn’t An Actual Word! It’s more of a noble concept to consider for practical purposes of building towards & solidifying a foundation.

Breaking the patterns of destructive behavior will sustain your life. Though, if living for the moment is more important than living long term, then who am I to stand in your way? If You Don’t Respect Yourself, Why Should Anyone Else?

#GodHelpUs