By: Qosmic Qadence
I’m thoroughly convinced that most women spend a good portion of their young lives sifting through all of the Mr. Wrong’s that come along. While sifting some even get trapped or trap themselves with children, joint property ownership, marriage etc. Given the joint responsibilities to assets or human lives, it becomes a nightmarish uphill battle reestablishing independence, or in the least freedom from that situation.
Complicating matters here is that most men take a little longer to mature mentally and emotionally. It’s an irrefutable truth that by nature men Hunt & women Nest. While being labeled Mr. Wrong, they’re actually more accurately Mr. NotRightNow (a.k.a. Mr. WannaHaveFun; b.k.a. Mr. OnTheProwl).
By the time they’ve exhausted their immature phase of fun and games, and are ready to settle down, MOST women have grown tired of what they rightfully perceive to be “The Game”.
At this point one of two things happens:
• #1 – Women themselves begin playing “The Game”, and end up screwing over a good man. All the while paying back men for all of the heart & headaches endured through previous encounters. That is, whether they’re the direct cause or not.
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• #2 – Women become game conscious and men who’ve thought themselves to be done with “The Game”, instead find themselves & their every move under heavy scrutiny. Mind you, they could be noble in their intentions and honestly not messing around on the side; nor possess a desire to. But, both the positive and negative spin on this situation, are more often than not based on previous experience with that particular type of man or others.
Ladies & Gents, be very careful. The worst thing you can do is allow the ugliness of experience to darken your heart & taint your mentality. It’s also terrible to have a mate feel like, “What the hell! If I’m going to be accused of messing around, I might as well make it count.” It’s not always what you say to a person, but sometimes your accusatory reactions can be equally as off putting or damaging.
Surely there are real life instances where both of the gender ascribed traits within this writing, are applicable to both sexes and can be reversed. So, in the general sense my advice is this, “Be clear with those with whom you encounter about your aim, mission, or desires.”
I’ll forever contend that 9 times out of 10, a woman wants the same thing(s) that a man does – and vice versa. If we’d ALL grow up and be more honest with one another about what we truly desire, a world of opportunity would present itself for the taking.
Side with honesty or keep playing “The Game” with ‘Mr. & Mrs. Wrong’.
The choice is yours.
*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up”, he is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. He has also published 2 books of poetry “Love vs. The World” & “Love Letters”, as well as a book of inspirational content entitled, “The Book of Qos – Inspirational Words of Life”. Visit his website listed above to explore his work & this movement further.