“Who Leaves First Shall Die”


By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)

Art and the interpretation thereof is a many splendid thing. Art is supposed to evoke emotion & incite thoughts or conversation.

In my opinion the imagery above depicts an interesting dynamic in thought process for the sexes. The psychology of Male vs. Female interactions is profoundly evident here. Men and Women invest themselves emotionally into relationships a little differently. Both the physical and emotional characteristics are depicted remarkably in the portrait.

Most Women invest themselves from an ‘Emotionally Spiritual’ standpoint and (as evidenced in her right hand securely clutching him high around the neck) they seek to hold on to their love at all costs – having opened her soul to the encounter. Although she holds the power to destroy the relationship (as depicted with the knife in her left hand) she’d much rather spare her love interest initially and incur the pain of his attempt to leave. This is an act that will undoubtedly hurt her more (as displayed with the knife being directed at her tightly grasped left hand), than it will the man. Though her investment is firm.

Conversely, most Men invest themselves from an ‘Emotionally Mental’ standpoint. It’s no easy thing for a man to open up and give his all to a relationship. When he does he takes it seriously & does so protecting his vested interest (evidenced in his right hand tightly embracing her in the core of her back), with a desire to become her foundation & provide her every need. This investment isn’t taken lightly for a man, so if things go awry at her doing, the relationship investment deserves imminent death (as displayed in the knife being directed at her neck), and he feels no obligation to prevent that.

Not until Men & Women grow in love securely, will they ever be able to blend both the innate physical & emotional characteristics explained above, to form an unbreakable bond solidified in Truth, Love & Understanding.

(Image origin: http://godisheart.blogspot.com/2014/01/who-leaves-first-shall-die.html?m=1 )

Qosmic Qadence

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.


“A Good Man’s Claim”


By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)

It’s a sad but true fact. Most men have started out in early/younger relationships loving at half mass (even in the best possible loving situation), because we kept our “heart” & “options” open ‘Just In Case’ (something bad happened like a break up, or someone else better came along).

The silliest thing about this perspective is that our practice caused us more harm than good and NOW we recognize that. So, typically as a man matures he’ll open himself to the greatest possibility of love and seek to freely share that with a Great woman.

Unfortunately, many of those Great women have since stopped believing in men – or worse, have stopped believing in their own ability to acquire true love. They’ve unfortunately given so often, and received little to nothing or heartache in return. Ladies, be patient with us and try to understand. We’re Trying To Do Better … NOW! At least, “The Good Men Are”.

Qosmic Qadence

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“Life Is For The Living!”


By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)

Suppose with me for a second that everything you’ve ever desired in life was obtained. Suppose every dream you ever dared to dream came to fruition. Suppose every fear you could possibly conceive was eradicated by the exact opposite, and worry was replaced with an abundance of bliss. I suppose if this were possible you’d be a cartoon sketched or fictitious character from the pages of someone else’s wildest imagining.

Life isn’t always perfect. We don’t always win. We aren’t always met with the most favorable circumstances in every situation. But that’s what makes life a beautiful experience in and of itself. “Life is a journey of realization, which often ends in that place where dreams never begin”.

We must allow ourselves the opportunity to grow through experiences. Otherwise, we’ll follow the pattern of an old fools perception, lamenting in future years of how life was too short. In actuality, if more time is spent enjoying the precious moments gifted – including taking the bitter with the sweet – we’ll find ourselves more fulfilled through gratefulness.

Don’t rob yourself of an amazing journey through life because you’re burdened with worrying about the uncontrollable; hoping for the not yet attained; supposing to achieve what will never occur without action; or waiting alas for the magic to happen.

Make the best of what you have. Time elapses second by second whether we acknowledge it or not. Thus, time worthwhile is best measured in those moments spent living.

Enjoy the moments!

Qosmic Qadence

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“Dream Support? Who Does That?”


By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)

Have you ever had a DREAM? Ever HOPED to accomplish something Bigger Than Yourself? Ever DESIRED to Share a precious gift with the world that you Knew would benefit all of humanity once they got wind of it? Wasn’t that Dream, Hope &/or Desire of yours embraced by every solitary person that you encountered and shared it with? Didn’t they think you were the Greatest thing since sliced bread for devising such an idea and presenting it to them? Ha! OF COURSE NOT SILLY! “Welcome To The Real World!”

As a writer I’ve found it easier not to actually EXPECT support from anyone. It’s a mental and emotional trap to do so. Those people who have businesses that I’ve supported &/or presently support, or that I’ve extended certain courtesies, done things for and the like. Well, they weren’t gifted the blessing of my time or favor, in hopes of some eventual instance of payback displayed in a book sale or two. Nor was I hoping they’d end up “Shouting Me Out” promotionally via their social media pages.

Would it help my efforts if they did? Without question it would! But, God Bless those people anyway. My strides in life as an Author/Poet/Writer are being supported by some amazing “PEOPLE” whose acquaintance I would never have had an opportunity to make, without first pursuing MY dream. Therefore, even giving attention to those who aren’t supporting me is sort of a slap in the face to those who are! At least, that’s how I see it.

I had a mentor tell me years ago, “Your success in life will be perceived as some peoples failure! This is the reason they’ll find it difficult to throw their support behind your efforts”. So you see, complaining about their lack of support sort of feeds their hope that you won’t succeed – not to mention it validates their insecurities in life.

Think about it this way, if your success depended on their support alone, well, you’d pretty much be a failure presently. And we know this isn’t the case, right? Focus on what matters, keep grinding, push yourself to the maximum and seek to persevere at all costs, regardless who supports you.

Your blessings are YOUR blessings, designed for acquisition when the time comes. Value, Honor & Respect Them All! Sometimes, they’re disguised as a lack of support to spur focus & hard work.

Those Dreams, Hopes & Desires are YOURS to bring to Life! Don’t You Dare Stop To Monitor Support, When There’s Plenty Of Work To Be Done Before Making That A Reality!

Be Incredible!

Qosmic Qadence

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“New Year, New You!”

By: Qosmic Qadence


“Who started the tradition of making New Years Resolutions? AND, why is it not a big deal that people make them each year and seldom keep them?” Shouldn’t this be shunned or thought of as outrageous at this point?

Hmmm … How about this, if you want to Be Better, to Do Better, to BECOME the Best You POSSIBLE, why delay by restricting this to a certain time period?

Wanna lose weight or tone up? Do some ‘Push Aways’ from the table this holiday season and start a cardio routine at least. Don’t be mad this summer when you’re not beach ready, Let’s GO Now!

Want a better job? Choose a course of study, and use the Internet for more than just socializing. Begin brushing up on the course of study, in preparation to return to school.

Want a better relationship? Be a better mate! If you’re giving too much, then step away from that bad situation and love yourself more!

Start your ‘New Year New You Campaign’ Immediately! Being nonchalant in your approach to changing YOUR Life for the better has yielded what kind of results thus far?


Check Me Out 😉

“Abstinence Means You Love YOU”

By: Qosmic Qadence

Before he penetrates you physically,
Let elapsed time stimulate you mentally.
Passion ignited by words that sensually,
Kindle infernos erotically sustained.
The magnetism of soul energy,
A priceless gift when appreciated genuinely.
Seek to gain & maintain respectability?
Then choose to Sexually Abstain.
A Prize So Preciously Reserved,
For The One Making Love To Your Brain!

I’ve been sexually active for a number of years, with a lot of women, and the unfortunate truth is that, ultimately I ONLY MARRIED ONE OF THEM.

This is Tragic in the grand scheme of things, for all those women essentially shared something with me that I didn’t deserve – a part of them respectively that should’ve been reserved for the man of their dreams.

I have a daughter, sisters, nieces, female family members and friends alike that I love, who I’d like to encourage to respect yourselves by allowing patience to have her way in your situations.

Forward, Tag People or simply share this with people that you feel could be EMPOWERED by this message!

Let’s change our habits and change the world for the better.

QosmicQadence is Poet & Author of 2 books, “The Book of Qos” & “Love vs. The World” Have You Purchased Your Copies Yet? The Perfect Gifts Any Time of The Year! www.QosmicQadence.com


“Self-Respect Goes A Long Way!”

By: Qosmic Qadence

If it takes you 5 seconds to determine whether you’d have Sex with me, then “I’ll Pass”. Otherwise, I’d perhaps pass away, from whatever you’re so quick to pass out. No thanks!

*Soap Box Moment*
A tad annoyed by this perception that it’s cool to Act on Impulses of Lust solely, while expecting a “Forevership” to dynamically develop.

Yes I’m Well Aware That ‘Forevership’ Isn’t An Actual Word! It’s more of a noble concept to consider for practical purposes of building towards & solidifying a foundation.

Breaking the patterns of destructive behavior will sustain your life. Though, if living for the moment is more important than living long term, then who am I to stand in your way? If You Don’t Respect Yourself, Why Should Anyone Else?


“Don’t Give Up!”

By: Qosmic Qadence

The place where you are in life at this very moment is a part of DESTINY! The plans are in motion, though a lot of times people get lost within the process, because they don’t understand that you MUST weather the storm. When it’s over the sun going to shine brighter on your life than you could have ever imagined!


You’re immensely gifted and your life is on the RIGHT track! It’s not always comfortable and things don’t always work the way we want them to, but that’s Life!

If things were contrary to this, you’d be a genie and your life would amount to nothing more than a bunch of wishes that you made come true in a blink. There’s no way that you’d appreciate nor be satisfied with any of those unearned results.

Tough times prepare you to be responsible with & appreciative to your blessings when they do come. Be weary, it’s human to be sometimes.

But Don’t You Dare Give Up!

“Are You Ready?”

By: Qosmic Qadence

Today’s the 1st day of the REST of your Life! Might as well get off to the absolute best start possible, right? Are you ready?

Complaining only slows progress … worrying about things BEYOND your control is futile! Are you ready?

Being laser FOCUSED on doing ‘ALL You Can’ to assure your Ultimate Success is PARAMOUNT!!! When it’s all said and done, your BEST Effort is all you could EVER have given. Are you ready?

As if robbing yourself of Greatness isn’t HORRIBLE enough! To STEAL from the world a Gift Rich, Talent Infected, Unparalled Manifestation of Brilliance is CRIMINAL! Life doesn’t OWE you anything, though you OWE it to life to make yours COUNT! Are You Ready?

“Open Letter To Self”

(By: Qosmic Qadence)

Dear Self,

I realize that you’re full of all these dreams, hopes, desires, goals, imaginings, ideas, ambitions, plans, wishes etc. But, quite frankly, I haven’t the time to fullfil them all.

I mean really, have you checked your list lately???? It’s full of all kinds of stuff that I’m afraid just won’t work! Or worse, that’ll cause people to talk about us and think we’re crazy!!! We can’t have that now, can we? Of course not! Especially because we really care about the opinions that others form and carry of us.

Perhaps tomorrow I’ll devote more time to these silly ideas you keep crafting. There’s simply not enough time in the day between work, taking care of home, social networking, watching TV, playing games, talking on the phone, gossiping, watching videos, catching up on the latest celebrity news and fashion trends etc. Seriously, who can find the time for anything else?

Well, hopefully you understand that we’re just going to have to put your foolishness on the back burner until we get some of the more important things mentioned off of our plate. I mean, what’s the hurry anyway? *smile*

You’re really awesome, I truly mean that! However, the extra effort to make those dreams, hopes, desires, ambitions, plans & wishes come to fruition, I am simply not willing to give! It’s not really worth it right now. *shrug* Maybe sometime soon though. You understand that right?

Don’t worry, tomorrow we’ll work on us, I promise!!!!!! I love you!

Unfortunately Yours Forever!
Your Lazy Unbelief