“Mr. & Mrs. All Wrong For One Another”

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By: Qosmic Qadence

I’m thoroughly convinced that most women spend a good portion of their young lives sifting through all of the Mr. Wrong’s that come along. While sifting some even get trapped or trap themselves with children, joint property ownership, marriage etc. Given the joint responsibilities to assets or human lives, it becomes a nightmarish uphill battle reestablishing independence, or in the least freedom from that situation.

Complicating matters here is that most men take a little longer to mature mentally and emotionally. It’s an irrefutable truth that by nature men Hunt & women Nest. While being labeled Mr. Wrong, they’re actually more accurately Mr. NotRightNow (a.k.a. Mr. WannaHaveFun; b.k.a. Mr. OnTheProwl).

By the time they’ve exhausted their immature phase of fun and games, and are ready to settle down, MOST women have grown tired of what they rightfully perceive to be “The Game”.

At this point one of two things happens:

• #1 – Women themselves begin playing “The Game”, and end up screwing over a good man. All the while paying back men for all of the heart & headaches endured through previous encounters. That is, whether they’re the direct cause or not.

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• #2 – Women become game conscious and men who’ve thought themselves to be done with “The Game”, instead find themselves & their every move under heavy scrutiny. Mind you, they could be noble in their intentions and honestly not messing around on the side; nor possess a desire to. But, both the positive and negative spin on this situation, are more often than not based on previous experience with that particular type of man or others.

Ladies & Gents, be very careful. The worst thing you can do is allow the ugliness of experience to darken your heart & taint your mentality. It’s also terrible to have a mate feel like, “What the hell! If I’m going to be accused of messing around, I might as well make it count.” It’s not always what you say to a person, but sometimes your accusatory reactions can be equally as off putting or damaging.

Surely there are real life instances where both of the gender ascribed traits within this writing, are applicable to both sexes and can be reversed. So, in the general sense my advice is this, “Be clear with those with whom you encounter about your aim, mission, or desires.”

I’ll forever contend that 9 times out of 10, a woman wants the same thing(s) that a man does – and vice versa. If we’d ALL grow up and be more honest with one another about what we truly desire, a world of opportunity would present itself for the taking.

Side with honesty or keep playing “The Game” with ‘Mr. & Mrs. Wrong’.
The choice is yours.

Best Wishes
Qosmic Qadence

http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up”, he is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. He has also published 2 books of poetry “Love vs. The World” & “Love Letters”, as well as a book of inspirational content entitled, “The Book of Qos – Inspirational Words of Life”. Visit his website listed above to explore his work & this movement further.

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“Dating 101: Three Tips For Active Daters”

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By: Qosmic Qadence

Greetings Prospective Daters!

The following are 3 entirely helpful tips that everyone who’s presently dating or who intends to date, should both know and apply.

•Tip #1: Take The Time To Get To Know Yourself.

Clearly there’s a tremendous benefit in knowing who you are, when approaching any situation. With prior knowledge, this gives you a concrete basis of understanding what’s suitable, tolerable &/or worth your time and energy. Ask yourself a few questions like: “What kind of person am I? What makes me happy? How important is that happiness? Adding another person to my mix benefits that happiness in what way? What would I like to contribute to another persons life? Fun? Education? Growth as a person? Companionship? Friendship? Sex? Marriage? What’s my chief aim for dating at this time?

•Tip #2: Define Those Things That You Desire To Accomplish As A Result Of Dating.

There could be nothing worse than dating without an aim, even if it’s just for fun; companionship; conversation; social interaction; casual sex etc. Having this clearly defined helps ease stress &/or confusion brought about through miscommunication/misunderstanding of the process. You’ll find yourself far more equipped to readily identify situations that aren’t conducive to your directional purpose as outlined. Otherwise you waste time that can never be recouped and incur frustrations that can be easily avoided.

•Tip #3: Define What Dating Is & Isn’t!

How many expect to find success on the dating front without guidelines or structure is laughable. It’s like taking a road trip without clear directions, likewise without map or GPS assistance. Can you say, “Extended Trip”? Ha! Establish the ‘Rules’ here & trust me, it’s okay to do so. What constitutes a date? What’s appropriate date attire? What are appropriate dating venues versus those inappropriate? What’s appropriate dating behavior & conversation? What’s completely off limits? You’re encouraged to dig a bit deeper and ask additional questions more closely suited to your personality & lifestyle makeup. Establishing ‘Rules’ in this regard should make it a lot easier to communicate and plan a date that has an actual chance of succeeding.

These are great places to start! Keep in mind that we all develop and are stretched a tad based on those we date – positively or negatively. Be clear about your desires & allow those to become your road map.

Best Wishes!
Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up”, he is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement further.

“Stop Cheating Yourself”

“Stop Cheating Yourself”

By: Qosmic Qadence

The truth of the matter is that anyone who cheats is SELFISH and IMMATURE, whether they’re a Man or Woman. Their need for sexual gratification blatantly supersedes their desire to be in a Committed Relationship as verbally expressed (and psychotically) physically displayed through false actions that lead the other person to believe that they’re noble & respectable.

The bottomline is that they don’t care about you, or your feelings nor your emotional well being – nevertheless “LOVE You” if they’ll cheat. It’s NOT in them to love themselves enough to be true, so what makes you think they’ll live to love in truth with you? Women and Men who’re looking for something REAL need to understand that a person will NEVER love you the way you deserve to be loved, without you TEACHING them how to.

I’m not suggesting that if we’re being cheated on it’s 100% our fault, but we have to accept some of the responsibility. Why? Because a cheater exposed who is forgiven even once by us, is actually being ENABLED! When we stop making excuses for their IMMATURITY, they’ll GROW UP!

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

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“Who Leaves First Shall Die”

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By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)
@qosmic_qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

Art and the interpretation thereof is a many splendid thing. Art is supposed to evoke emotion & incite thoughts or conversation.

In my opinion the imagery above depicts an interesting dynamic in thought process for the sexes. The psychology of Male vs. Female interactions is profoundly evident here. Men and Women invest themselves emotionally into relationships a little differently. Both the physical and emotional characteristics are depicted remarkably in the portrait.

Most Women invest themselves from an ‘Emotionally Spiritual’ standpoint and (as evidenced in her right hand securely clutching him high around the neck) they seek to hold on to their love at all costs – having opened her soul to the encounter. Although she holds the power to destroy the relationship (as depicted with the knife in her left hand) she’d much rather spare her love interest initially and incur the pain of his attempt to leave. This is an act that will undoubtedly hurt her more (as displayed with the knife being directed at her tightly grasped left hand), than it will the man. Though her investment is firm.

Conversely, most Men invest themselves from an ‘Emotionally Mental’ standpoint. It’s no easy thing for a man to open up and give his all to a relationship. When he does he takes it seriously & does so protecting his vested interest (evidenced in his right hand tightly embracing her in the core of her back), with a desire to become her foundation & provide her every need. This investment isn’t taken lightly for a man, so if things go awry at her doing, the relationship investment deserves imminent death (as displayed in the knife being directed at her neck), and he feels no obligation to prevent that.

Not until Men & Women grow in love securely, will they ever be able to blend both the innate physical & emotional characteristics explained above, to form an unbreakable bond solidified in Truth, Love & Understanding.

(Image origin: http://godisheart.blogspot.com/2014/01/who-leaves-first-shall-die.html?m=1 )

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“A Good Man’s Claim”

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By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)
@qosmic_qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

It’s a sad but true fact. Most men have started out in early/younger relationships loving at half mass (even in the best possible loving situation), because we kept our “heart” & “options” open ‘Just In Case’ (something bad happened like a break up, or someone else better came along).

The silliest thing about this perspective is that our practice caused us more harm than good and NOW we recognize that. So, typically as a man matures he’ll open himself to the greatest possibility of love and seek to freely share that with a Great woman.

Unfortunately, many of those Great women have since stopped believing in men – or worse, have stopped believing in their own ability to acquire true love. They’ve unfortunately given so often, and received little to nothing or heartache in return. Ladies, be patient with us and try to understand. We’re Trying To Do Better … NOW! At least, “The Good Men Are”.

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“Abstinence Means You Love YOU”

By: Qosmic Qadence

Before he penetrates you physically,
Let elapsed time stimulate you mentally.
Passion ignited by words that sensually,
Kindle infernos erotically sustained.
The magnetism of soul energy,
A priceless gift when appreciated genuinely.
Seek to gain & maintain respectability?
Then choose to Sexually Abstain.
A Prize So Preciously Reserved,
For The One Making Love To Your Brain!
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I’ve been sexually active for a number of years, with a lot of women, and the unfortunate truth is that, ultimately I ONLY MARRIED ONE OF THEM.

This is Tragic in the grand scheme of things, for all those women essentially shared something with me that I didn’t deserve – a part of them respectively that should’ve been reserved for the man of their dreams.

I have a daughter, sisters, nieces, female family members and friends alike that I love, who I’d like to encourage to respect yourselves by allowing patience to have her way in your situations.

Forward, Tag People or simply share this with people that you feel could be EMPOWERED by this message!

Let’s change our habits and change the world for the better.

QosmicQadence is Poet & Author of 2 books, “The Book of Qos” & “Love vs. The World” Have You Purchased Your Copies Yet? The Perfect Gifts Any Time of The Year! www.QosmicQadence.com

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“Self-Respect Goes A Long Way!”

By: Qosmic Qadence

If it takes you 5 seconds to determine whether you’d have Sex with me, then “I’ll Pass”. Otherwise, I’d perhaps pass away, from whatever you’re so quick to pass out. No thanks!

*Soap Box Moment*
A tad annoyed by this perception that it’s cool to Act on Impulses of Lust solely, while expecting a “Forevership” to dynamically develop.

Yes I’m Well Aware That ‘Forevership’ Isn’t An Actual Word! It’s more of a noble concept to consider for practical purposes of building towards & solidifying a foundation.

Breaking the patterns of destructive behavior will sustain your life. Though, if living for the moment is more important than living long term, then who am I to stand in your way? If You Don’t Respect Yourself, Why Should Anyone Else?

#GodHelpUs