“Vision” – It’s Time For You To Choose

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By: Qosmic Qadence

Greetings All!

In this post I’d like to speak with you all about vision. There are three definitions that we’ll focus on for reference.

Vision (noun) vi·sion\ˈvi-zhən\
: something that you imagine
: a picture that you see in your mind.
: something that you see or dream especially as part of a religious or supernatural experience.

In light of the above definitions of vision & the image posted, I’d like to speak about the vision of publishing my first book of poetry.

The idea & subsequent dream was born in 2003, though I wouldn’t begin to actively write toward it’s eventual completion until 2007. However, after investing time and energy over and over thru the years into my professional life – not to mention doing all the things that ‘GrownUps’ are supposed to – well, my seemingly not so special side projects were placed on the far back burner.

There’s a huge difference between having a dream and having vision. Everyone dreams, but when you have a vision it compels you to take actions beneficial to the acquisition of the dream.

You see, there’s something altogether life altering about vision. When you really see it, that stuff gets down into your bone marrow and won’t let you rest for a second, until you’ve exhausted all possibilities for achievement. You’re better off never having vision to begin with! Ha!

Life showed me that it was time to start living and making a difference broad scale, as I’d always hoped to be able to. After severing professional ties with a company that had all but enslaved my time and energy 5 years too long, I was reminded of my publishing vision.

To make a long story short, I dove in with both shoes tied tight & within 60 days of walking away, I’d published my first book of poetry, “Love vs. The World”.

I’ve sold many copies of this particular book & it always floors me when someone makes a purchase (now of that or any of my 4 published books). To think, I spent an incalculable amount of time planning, designing, creating, writing for & envisioning the finished product of my words in book form to share with others. And, lo and behold people think & find it necessary to purchase “My Vision” now that I’ve activated it. It’s An Electrifying Experience! I assure you.

I launched this book without a huge PR or marketing campaign, nor celeb fanfare or assistance, begging support from their shady followers on my behalf. “Noooo, I wasn’t ready” (in my Kevin Hart voice. Ha!) I did so instead, fueled by this vision & a dream that wouldn’t let me sleep, without nagging nightmarishly. Once the vision has been written into your psyche & down on paper, the execution requires the hardest work of your life! The first & most critical step being, taking an actual first step toward achievement.

Today I love knowing what it means to fulfill a dream & to have that dream give birth to a plethora of others. I cringe imagining a life where some mundane routine becomes the vital blood filling your veins, and the very air that you breathe.

“No One Said Life Would Be Easy” they say from time to time. Well, Fuck You! “Who Ever Said Life Would Be Hard?” I’ve never actually heard anyone utter the former as a precaution to taking huge risks or being met with adversity. It’s more or less an acknowledgment thrown around after disappointment rears its ugly head. Almost as if people are preprogrammed for failure.

Damn That! I say, “Life Can Be Easy!” Life can be easy, the moment you decide to start living outside of your shitty little comfort zone – which has held you hostage far too long.

Life can be easy the instant you decide that the quality of life for everyone around you needs to change for the better & then you start working in your own special way to fulfill that promise.

Life can be easy when you stop lying to yourself about what’s possible and what’s impossible. Stop being afraid to fail publicly, meanwhile you’re failing miserably in what you perceive to be private.

There comes a time when one must either go for the gusto, or stand aside while the actual dreamers with vision emerge.

“I’m sorry, but it’s time for you to choose!”

Best Wishes!
Qosmic Qadence

http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up”, he is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. He has also published 2 books of poetry “Love vs. The World” & “Love Letters”, as well as a book of inspirational content entitled, “The Book of Qos – Inspirational Words of Life”. Visit his website listed above to explore his work & this movement further.

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“Dating 101: Three Tips For Active Daters”

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By: Qosmic Qadence

Greetings Prospective Daters!

The following are 3 entirely helpful tips that everyone who’s presently dating or who intends to date, should both know and apply.

•Tip #1: Take The Time To Get To Know Yourself.

Clearly there’s a tremendous benefit in knowing who you are, when approaching any situation. With prior knowledge, this gives you a concrete basis of understanding what’s suitable, tolerable &/or worth your time and energy. Ask yourself a few questions like: “What kind of person am I? What makes me happy? How important is that happiness? Adding another person to my mix benefits that happiness in what way? What would I like to contribute to another persons life? Fun? Education? Growth as a person? Companionship? Friendship? Sex? Marriage? What’s my chief aim for dating at this time?

•Tip #2: Define Those Things That You Desire To Accomplish As A Result Of Dating.

There could be nothing worse than dating without an aim, even if it’s just for fun; companionship; conversation; social interaction; casual sex etc. Having this clearly defined helps ease stress &/or confusion brought about through miscommunication/misunderstanding of the process. You’ll find yourself far more equipped to readily identify situations that aren’t conducive to your directional purpose as outlined. Otherwise you waste time that can never be recouped and incur frustrations that can be easily avoided.

•Tip #3: Define What Dating Is & Isn’t!

How many expect to find success on the dating front without guidelines or structure is laughable. It’s like taking a road trip without clear directions, likewise without map or GPS assistance. Can you say, “Extended Trip”? Ha! Establish the ‘Rules’ here & trust me, it’s okay to do so. What constitutes a date? What’s appropriate date attire? What are appropriate dating venues versus those inappropriate? What’s appropriate dating behavior & conversation? What’s completely off limits? You’re encouraged to dig a bit deeper and ask additional questions more closely suited to your personality & lifestyle makeup. Establishing ‘Rules’ in this regard should make it a lot easier to communicate and plan a date that has an actual chance of succeeding.

These are great places to start! Keep in mind that we all develop and are stretched a tad based on those we date – positively or negatively. Be clear about your desires & allow those to become your road map.

Best Wishes!
Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up”, he is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement further.

“Stop Cheating Yourself”

“Stop Cheating Yourself”

By: Qosmic Qadence

The truth of the matter is that anyone who cheats is SELFISH and IMMATURE, whether they’re a Man or Woman. Their need for sexual gratification blatantly supersedes their desire to be in a Committed Relationship as verbally expressed (and psychotically) physically displayed through false actions that lead the other person to believe that they’re noble & respectable.

The bottomline is that they don’t care about you, or your feelings nor your emotional well being – nevertheless “LOVE You” if they’ll cheat. It’s NOT in them to love themselves enough to be true, so what makes you think they’ll live to love in truth with you? Women and Men who’re looking for something REAL need to understand that a person will NEVER love you the way you deserve to be loved, without you TEACHING them how to.

I’m not suggesting that if we’re being cheated on it’s 100% our fault, but we have to accept some of the responsibility. Why? Because a cheater exposed who is forgiven even once by us, is actually being ENABLED! When we stop making excuses for their IMMATURITY, they’ll GROW UP!

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

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“Slow Support Is Actually Good Support?”

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By: Qosmic Qadence

Hmmm, interesting concept, no? Well think of it this way, “People who witness your growth first hand, fall into a class of ‘Stone Cold Believers’ in your Mission, Potential and Abilities to Create Results! How so? They’ve Witnessed your strides to turn a mere Dream into a Goal, which is naturally Fueled by a Burning Passion to make a Reality. And those my friends, are among the GREATEST Supporters you’ll ever have!” Be Patient With Them …

When a “Movement” begins those are the people who RUN to your success the Fastest! Their urgency helps generate the momentum necessary to shock and awe others, and further assist in spreading the word of achievement. The majority who are exposed to & who understand the value of your gifts, will marvel at the sheer number of eager supporters all of a sudden, as if to wonder, “Who wouldn’t have gotten on board with this movement from the start? DUH!”

So, give the slow poke supporters a bit of slack, for in the grand scheme of things, they’ll become your Greatest Asset!

Be Incredible!

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Published Poet & Author of “Love vs. The World” – A Book of Poetry, which sheds poetic light on various aspects of life. As well as a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” He is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“Who Leaves First Shall Die”

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By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)
@qosmic_qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

Art and the interpretation thereof is a many splendid thing. Art is supposed to evoke emotion & incite thoughts or conversation.

In my opinion the imagery above depicts an interesting dynamic in thought process for the sexes. The psychology of Male vs. Female interactions is profoundly evident here. Men and Women invest themselves emotionally into relationships a little differently. Both the physical and emotional characteristics are depicted remarkably in the portrait.

Most Women invest themselves from an ‘Emotionally Spiritual’ standpoint and (as evidenced in her right hand securely clutching him high around the neck) they seek to hold on to their love at all costs – having opened her soul to the encounter. Although she holds the power to destroy the relationship (as depicted with the knife in her left hand) she’d much rather spare her love interest initially and incur the pain of his attempt to leave. This is an act that will undoubtedly hurt her more (as displayed with the knife being directed at her tightly grasped left hand), than it will the man. Though her investment is firm.

Conversely, most Men invest themselves from an ‘Emotionally Mental’ standpoint. It’s no easy thing for a man to open up and give his all to a relationship. When he does he takes it seriously & does so protecting his vested interest (evidenced in his right hand tightly embracing her in the core of her back), with a desire to become her foundation & provide her every need. This investment isn’t taken lightly for a man, so if things go awry at her doing, the relationship investment deserves imminent death (as displayed in the knife being directed at her neck), and he feels no obligation to prevent that.

Not until Men & Women grow in love securely, will they ever be able to blend both the innate physical & emotional characteristics explained above, to form an unbreakable bond solidified in Truth, Love & Understanding.

(Image origin: http://godisheart.blogspot.com/2014/01/who-leaves-first-shall-die.html?m=1 )

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“A Good Man’s Claim”

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By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)
@qosmic_qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

It’s a sad but true fact. Most men have started out in early/younger relationships loving at half mass (even in the best possible loving situation), because we kept our “heart” & “options” open ‘Just In Case’ (something bad happened like a break up, or someone else better came along).

The silliest thing about this perspective is that our practice caused us more harm than good and NOW we recognize that. So, typically as a man matures he’ll open himself to the greatest possibility of love and seek to freely share that with a Great woman.

Unfortunately, many of those Great women have since stopped believing in men – or worse, have stopped believing in their own ability to acquire true love. They’ve unfortunately given so often, and received little to nothing or heartache in return. Ladies, be patient with us and try to understand. We’re Trying To Do Better … NOW! At least, “The Good Men Are”.

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“Life Is For The Living!”

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By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)
@qosmic_qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

Suppose with me for a second that everything you’ve ever desired in life was obtained. Suppose every dream you ever dared to dream came to fruition. Suppose every fear you could possibly conceive was eradicated by the exact opposite, and worry was replaced with an abundance of bliss. I suppose if this were possible you’d be a cartoon sketched or fictitious character from the pages of someone else’s wildest imagining.

Life isn’t always perfect. We don’t always win. We aren’t always met with the most favorable circumstances in every situation. But that’s what makes life a beautiful experience in and of itself. “Life is a journey of realization, which often ends in that place where dreams never begin”.

We must allow ourselves the opportunity to grow through experiences. Otherwise, we’ll follow the pattern of an old fools perception, lamenting in future years of how life was too short. In actuality, if more time is spent enjoying the precious moments gifted – including taking the bitter with the sweet – we’ll find ourselves more fulfilled through gratefulness.

Don’t rob yourself of an amazing journey through life because you’re burdened with worrying about the uncontrollable; hoping for the not yet attained; supposing to achieve what will never occur without action; or waiting alas for the magic to happen.

Make the best of what you have. Time elapses second by second whether we acknowledge it or not. Thus, time worthwhile is best measured in those moments spent living.

Enjoy the moments!

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“Dream Support? Who Does That?”

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By: Qosmic Qadence (Author, Poet)
@qosmic_qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

Have you ever had a DREAM? Ever HOPED to accomplish something Bigger Than Yourself? Ever DESIRED to Share a precious gift with the world that you Knew would benefit all of humanity once they got wind of it? Wasn’t that Dream, Hope &/or Desire of yours embraced by every solitary person that you encountered and shared it with? Didn’t they think you were the Greatest thing since sliced bread for devising such an idea and presenting it to them? Ha! OF COURSE NOT SILLY! “Welcome To The Real World!”

As a writer I’ve found it easier not to actually EXPECT support from anyone. It’s a mental and emotional trap to do so. Those people who have businesses that I’ve supported &/or presently support, or that I’ve extended certain courtesies, done things for and the like. Well, they weren’t gifted the blessing of my time or favor, in hopes of some eventual instance of payback displayed in a book sale or two. Nor was I hoping they’d end up “Shouting Me Out” promotionally via their social media pages.

Would it help my efforts if they did? Without question it would! But, God Bless those people anyway. My strides in life as an Author/Poet/Writer are being supported by some amazing “PEOPLE” whose acquaintance I would never have had an opportunity to make, without first pursuing MY dream. Therefore, even giving attention to those who aren’t supporting me is sort of a slap in the face to those who are! At least, that’s how I see it.

I had a mentor tell me years ago, “Your success in life will be perceived as some peoples failure! This is the reason they’ll find it difficult to throw their support behind your efforts”. So you see, complaining about their lack of support sort of feeds their hope that you won’t succeed – not to mention it validates their insecurities in life.

Think about it this way, if your success depended on their support alone, well, you’d pretty much be a failure presently. And we know this isn’t the case, right? Focus on what matters, keep grinding, push yourself to the maximum and seek to persevere at all costs, regardless who supports you.

Your blessings are YOUR blessings, designed for acquisition when the time comes. Value, Honor & Respect Them All! Sometimes, they’re disguised as a lack of support to spur focus & hard work.

Those Dreams, Hopes & Desires are YOURS to bring to Life! Don’t You Dare Stop To Monitor Support, When There’s Plenty Of Work To Be Done Before Making That A Reality!

Be Incredible!

Qosmic Qadence
http://www.qosmicqadence.com

*Author of a Self-Help Relationship book entitled, “Y’all Got The Game Fu#%ed Up” is avidly outspoken about Male/Female relationships & the missing dynamic that leads most to failure these days. Visit his website listed above to explore this movement.

“New Year, New You!”

By: Qosmic Qadence

“NEW YEAR, NEW YOU!”

“Who started the tradition of making New Years Resolutions? AND, why is it not a big deal that people make them each year and seldom keep them?” Shouldn’t this be shunned or thought of as outrageous at this point?

Hmmm … How about this, if you want to Be Better, to Do Better, to BECOME the Best You POSSIBLE, why delay by restricting this to a certain time period?

Wanna lose weight or tone up? Do some ‘Push Aways’ from the table this holiday season and start a cardio routine at least. Don’t be mad this summer when you’re not beach ready, Let’s GO Now!

Want a better job? Choose a course of study, and use the Internet for more than just socializing. Begin brushing up on the course of study, in preparation to return to school.

Want a better relationship? Be a better mate! If you’re giving too much, then step away from that bad situation and love yourself more!

Start your ‘New Year New You Campaign’ Immediately! Being nonchalant in your approach to changing YOUR Life for the better has yielded what kind of results thus far?

Exactly!

Check Me Out 😉

“Abstinence Means You Love YOU”

By: Qosmic Qadence

Before he penetrates you physically,
Let elapsed time stimulate you mentally.
Passion ignited by words that sensually,
Kindle infernos erotically sustained.
The magnetism of soul energy,
A priceless gift when appreciated genuinely.
Seek to gain & maintain respectability?
Then choose to Sexually Abstain.
A Prize So Preciously Reserved,
For The One Making Love To Your Brain!
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I’ve been sexually active for a number of years, with a lot of women, and the unfortunate truth is that, ultimately I ONLY MARRIED ONE OF THEM.

This is Tragic in the grand scheme of things, for all those women essentially shared something with me that I didn’t deserve – a part of them respectively that should’ve been reserved for the man of their dreams.

I have a daughter, sisters, nieces, female family members and friends alike that I love, who I’d like to encourage to respect yourselves by allowing patience to have her way in your situations.

Forward, Tag People or simply share this with people that you feel could be EMPOWERED by this message!

Let’s change our habits and change the world for the better.

QosmicQadence is Poet & Author of 2 books, “The Book of Qos” & “Love vs. The World” Have You Purchased Your Copies Yet? The Perfect Gifts Any Time of The Year! www.QosmicQadence.com

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